Gilligan's Island, I KNEW IT!

If you're not well versed in the 5 stages of grief- let me give you the quick run down

.......denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance

FACT: You WILL dance through each and every one of these emotions.

Every time I lose a friend, I ask Mr Google about the stages of grief and I make note as I sail through them....
Choosing the word SAIL because it can be a rough and rocky sea of emotions but you will get through them all.
Last week I learned of a good friend's death. He was a brilliant writer so I thought it made the best sense for me to write again.

Dear Scott,

I know no other way to communicate to you because THIS is the way we spoke for so many years.
Denial comes easy at the news of your death. "No fucking way" was my first thought......
SADLY, the anger came EASILY and swiftly.
"For fuck sakes, Scott, SOOO many people loved you. Adored you by the look of your memorial page."
"HOW HOW HOW could you put your girlfriend and mother through this HELL???"

......and about hell, yup, we spoke of that too...........
hell was here on earth
our separate belief systems agreed on one thing
people are sheeple- don't be THAT.
there wasn't much we didn't speak of and we took turns at calling each other "crazy" for years.

We are two very different people that exchanged light and dark thoughts for a long while
I cannot lie, I only "bargained" very briefly because i KNEW that NO ONE but YOU could help you...
even surrounded by love, you felt it hard to let it in

I met you when MY life was very dark and you shared the light that you had in you at the time.
for THAT, I will always remember to help people even when I am down. Quite the lesson, Mr Scott hahha I thank you for that

Wait, before I get too sappy because I know you would hate that, Mr Google has presented me with new knowledge today.
You used to say it was important to learn something new everyday. So here it is.....

Gilligans Island Syndrome

 Mr Google says, "If the bereaved were not present when the person died and then not see the deceased prior to cremation or burial-
 complicated or protracted bereavement may result. Many will report fantasies that their loved ones are not really dead; that it was a big mistake.
“Maybe they exist on an island somewhere” (these authors have coined that delusion the “Gilligan’s Island Syndrome”)"

OMFG that's it! You have gone to Gilligan's Island! Why wouldn't you? Life is simpler there and everyone is ageless and never in pain or darkness.
I heard you laugh today as I decided to pass depression and sail into ACCEPTANCE. This Gilligan's Island gig makes me smile and if I know ONE THING
i KNOW you loved to keep us ALL laughing.

I will remember you fondly ALWAYS and help your friends and family remember that you don't want them to be sad. Say hi to Gilligan for me!

Bye for now,

Your rebel friend, Lilith